Winning in Marriage Part Five

Fresh Manna© by Pastor Tim Burt

2 Cor. 4:13 (NKJV) “And since we have the same spirit of faith, according to what is written, “I believed and therefore I spoke,” we also believe and therefore speak…”

When I was a kid, I remember often thinking, “I can’t wait till I’m an adult and I can do what I want.” Isn’t that a prevailing thought we look forward to growing up?

We all learn at some time or another that even though we are an adult, we still have to do things our flesh or mind may not want to do. This is most certainly true for a Christian. A Christian is one because of his/her revelation of who Jesus Christ is and because they have personally received Him as their Lord and Savior. At that point, this truth slowly becomes revealed and unfolded in a Christians heart. 1 Cor. 6:19-20 (NLT) “…Don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” AND 1 Cor. 7:22 (NLT) “And remember, if you were a slave (to sin) when the Lord called you, the Lord has now set you free from the awful power of sin. And if you were free when the Lord called you, you are now a slave of Christ.”

Slavery is bondage and the devil puts you in bondage to things. Jesus has made you free. Yet we are called “a slave of Christ” because we have said Jesus is our Lord. As we learn God’s Word, we come to understand that God is good and wants good for us. We learn of His immeasurable love for us. We come to learn His desire for our lives to be filled with His blessing as He directs our path in life. Because we understand that we willingly yield ourselves to the leading of His spirit. We, as a willing slave to Christ, abandon our selfish and lusty ways. We abandon the thinking and attitude “I am an adult and I can do whatever I want.” Instead, in wanting to be transformed by His Holy Spirit, we yield to learn how to live a life of selflessness, a life of love, and a life of serving others while being a light to them. In a spirit of yieldedness to God, we make sacrifices and push ourselves in a direction His Spirit would lead us in that our flesh and mind would oppose and never do. It’s often like the adult supervision and parenting to a child that makes us do things, only instead it’s the inward leading of God’s Holy Spirit prompting and leading us – IF we will yield to Him.

God’s Word and His Spirit will tell us that we are not allowed to go to bed at night while still angry at our spouse. He doesn’t want a second and third day of this anger taking root and leading to bitterness. He wants our temperament under control. And so He says, “Don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry.” Eph. 4:26 AND Mark 11:26 “But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.” In other words, forgiveness and working through issues expediently is NOT AN OPTION! And if you are yielded to Him, you need to do it.

The good news is what I have been saying from the beginning of this series. Whatever God asks you to do, He equips you to do with His grace and power. You have that power – His help within you. He will help you learn to do this and practice it till you get it right.

Relational flair ups happen between two people. The effort toward reconciliation is not an option. That means you have to do your part right from a godly motivation and from a pure heart. You have to work toward reconciliation in a true spirit of love. That is what you are responsible for. If you keep at it, and stay sincerely pure in your efforts, then even if you don’t initially get the kind of response you would hope for, your consistent love and efforts will change you from within. Over time godly character will be formed within you and you will eventually see the results of your efforts.

Forgiveness and reconciliation is difficult because your flesh often doesn’t want to do it. But there is a source of power that will actually give you inward strength and keep your heart focused and energized in faith. It is the principle applied from today’s Fresh Manna verse. “And since we have the same spirit of faith, according to what is written, “I believed and therefore I spoke,” we also believe and therefore speak…”

This verse reveals a powerful truth. That things in our life are changed by the spirit of faith and our corresponding words that speak our faith. God created the world by faith and His corresponding words. From nothing, the earth was created by faith and the spoken word. Hebrews 11:3 (NLT) “By faith we understand that the entire universe was formed at God’s command (His spoken word), that what we now see did not come from anything that can be seen.”

When it comes to disrupted relationships over some form of strife, repenting with every right word to that person is the Spirit of Faith that brings supernatural results over time. Example: “Renee, what I said was wrong and unjustified. I said it in my anger and spoke words I did not mean. The truth is, you are the love of my life and God’s gift to me. I can see that God is continually transforming you into the most beautiful and wonderful woman I could ever dream of having for a wife. I love you and am sincerely sorry for my wrong behavior and words in this matter.” If I mean and learn to be consistent in speaking these kinds of words – by faith, they will produce change in me and in the person I am speaking them to. More to come…

In His Love,
Pastor Tim Burt

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