Framing Your Marriage and Life With Your Words – Part One

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by Pastor Tim Burt

A few years ago, Renee and I had to remodel two of our bathrooms. After 20 years, one of them in particular had some moisture problems. Some of the frame work had to be ripped out and redone because the moisture got into some of the sheet rock and framework and created mold.

In the same way, over time, some of the framework of our lives suffers from deterioration. In the early days of your relationship with your spouse, words of love poured out. Long conversations flowed with interest and excitement. And hugs and embraces carried great affection. You may also have been a champion at creating and giving beautiful letters, cards, poems, and creative ways to express your heart. The framing going on then was definitely the framework of love.

But then over time, deteriorating forces began to creep in. No one intentionally means to be the vessel that brings deterioration to something that was once so greatly cherished, but it happens. Somehow we begin to notice faults that love initially caused us to overlook. Then we begin to mark them in our mind until they become irritating. The momentum of negative thinking regarding them increases and for the first time, we put words to those thoughts. Words of love begin to slowly be replaced by complaints and they soon leech into the relationship. When that happens, deterioration has begun.

The old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me,” is one of the greatest lies and fallacies ever taught a child. Words can bring life and words can bring deterioration leading to the death of something precious to us. Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” This is telling us that our words have great power to produce life and blessing—to frame and create what is beautiful as God did, or to tear down and destroy—much like Satan, the destroyer of all does. It is a terrifying thought I know—to think that your words could be the handiwork of Satan to destroy. But, when you give over to wrong thinking and let emotions and words fly (that you know are wrong,) that is who you are yielding to.

What is God’s plan? Hebrews 11:3 gives revelation on the power of our words. Hebrews 11:3 (NLT)  says, “By faith we understand that the entire universe was formed at God’s command (by His words,) that what we now see did not come from anything that can be seen.” This verse reveals that words create and carry the force to frame and build with the result of having something good appear that previously wasn’t there. God created the world from words! Go back and read Genesis 1 to see this truth. Words can create what didn’t exist, or words can destroy what does.

Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”  This truth radically changed my life and it is one of the most critical areas I continue to think about almost daily. So what do we do about it? Read along tomorrow and I’ll teach you! For today, understand that your words do carry power—over you and over others! They will build and frame your world, or they will deteriorate and tear your world apart!  Ask the Lord to help you listen to what you say and put a leash on your tongue when it’s speaking words of death!

1 Peter 3:10 (NIV) “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech.”  

In His Love,
Pastor Tim Burt

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2 thoughts on “Framing Your Marriage and Life With Your Words – Part One

  1. thank you for this short and powerful article. Just like you thought, we need to regularly renovate our marriage and speak life to it. God bless you richly sir

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