by Pastor Tim Burt
I was remembering back to a weekend that my son Peter called me. He wanted to go golfing. The course he wanted to play at would be close to the last choice on my list. I disliked the course because when I was a young and very poor golfer, this course humiliated me. I probably hadn’t played there in 15 years and I certainly wasn’t excited about giving it another chance, even if my golf game had improved since then. Even so, Peter used his persuasive efforts and I caved and said yes.
The first hole went poorly and I couldn’t help but think, “Here we go again.” As Peter and I were going to the second hole, I said, Petey, I want to pray over our golf game. Maybe you don’t need help but I do! We prayed together as we drove up to the next hole. I felt better although my golf game wasn’t reflecting it. Things stayed shaky for the next two holes. As I got in the golf cart after the third hole, I shook my head, looked at Peter and said, I hate this course. He looked back at me and laughed. Okay Dad, he said, I am going to remind you what you’ve taught me all these years. Do you remember these words? What you say is important! So, repeat after me. I love this course. It made me laugh. I forced out the words, I love this course. He said, Come on Dad, say it again and put some passion into it. I ramped it up and said, I really love this course. We both laughed. (He was enjoying this far too much!) Now, he said, I want you to keep saying it. This is what you’ve taught me all my life. It’s fair that I get to help you to speak right. I laughed again and said, You are absolutely right and I appreciate it! I continued Peter, I just taught this to a group of 300 men at my Manhood breakfast the past weekend. I had shared with them the verse Proverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” I went on to explain to Peter what I had taught the men regarding this verse. We all get the part of “iron sharpens iron.” The verse continues with extremely significant wisdom. “So a man sharpens the countenance of a friend.”
If you meditate on these words, you begin to see that God has called you first to have friends – Christian friends that are Christ-minded and like-minded that you grow in the word with. Christians too often, don’t get the significance of being in Christian community, learning, sharing, and praying together. In God’s plan, it is critical to Christian growth and stability in the Lord. It’s the reason I’ve always been discipleship groups of about 6 to 8 guys for the last 35 years. In my view, it has been the backbone to my continuous spiritual growth. I’ve been a blessing to the guys in my group and they’ve been the same to me. The world is dark and getting darker. These guys being Iron Sharpening Iron has helped each of us to be a light to each other and the world around us. In this atmosphere, friends get honest and transparent and that is where we help sharpen each other.
Again, God gives us a calling in friendship and that is “to sharpen the countenance of a friend.” What that really means is to bring hope – godly hope, to their situation. It’s not when one says, The economy is really bad and my business is tanking, and the other says, It’s bound to get better at some point. That in all likelihood will not change their countenance or encourage them in any way. It’s when you bring a promise of God to their situation and pray it over them that the anointing in you, pierces their heart, stirs their hope and lifts their countenance. That is God working through you to be Iron Sharpening Iron, something only God’s word through you can achieve.
This weekend a woman came up to me after our church service. I have known her for years. She was suicidal. She said, “Pastor, I can’t take life any more, I just want to go home to be with Jesus.” This woman has battled depression on and off for years. But there is something about her that is so special. She is the most beautiful letter-writer you could ever imagine, and she can’t write without encouraging you. It’s powerful and exhorting. She has written me letters of thanks and encouragement for years.
For one second when she told me she was suicidal, I wasn’t sure what to say, but then suddenly, God showed me. I told her, There are so many people in this world that are hurting and discouraged. They need someone to encourage them. Someone who sees the good in them and points it out in an edifying way. You are that person. It is a gift in you. You are one of the greatest exhorters I’ve ever known. If you’d see that as a calling on your life and put it to work full-time, you would see God use you and it would change your life. Then I prayed with her. I immediately watched her countenance change. She went from looking suicidal to radiant with a huge smile. God had touched her in a miraculous way. She left with a smile on a mission to encourage others.
What we speak matters! Words aren’t trivial. They are containers that release power- good or bad. Words are what God created this world with. What we speak can be gas to a fire, or it can put out a fire and supernaturally bring hope and refreshing. Friends have a calling and part of that calling is to be iron sharpening iron… sharpening the countenance of a friend. Are you that friend? Do you understand that it’s part of your Christian calling? Are you imparting words of faith and promise from God’s word to your friends who need encouragement? It’s what you are called to do!
Proverbs 15:4 (NIV) “The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life…”
In His Love,
Pastor Tim Burt
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3 thoughts on “What Christian Friends Do For Each Other!”
This is an interesting post. As I think about the post about you and your son golfing, I think about my mother and I. Even though as an older daughter, I am the one that encourages my mother and siblings. Of course, I’m always encouraging other people as well as learning from others.
You really prayed over a golf game? Really? Oh dear! On the positive side, this resonates with me and the power of the tongue is immense, for good or bad. May we always have the courage to speak when led and keep quiet when needed. Thankyou
Helen, I detect that you disapprove over me praying over my golf game. If that is correct, then let me tell you that I believe God cares about everything we do in life. No matter what I do, I always want to glorify God through my words and actions. I never quite hit that mark without His help, so yes, I do pray over everything! And… I think it is what the Lord has said to do. Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT) says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”